Ever hear people say to you “You’re just too sensitive!”
And perhaps you want to crawl inside yourself in a flurry of hurt and frustration, and just give up!
Even though being sensitive is perfectly normal (about 15-20% of the population is considered to be “highly sensitive” in temperament), most of the people around you (the other 80-85%) are not highly sensitive, and perhaps a significant number are less sensitive than the average person.
This doesn’t mean life will be a problem. It does, however, mean that you have to learn how to manage your sensitivity. With good management, sensitivity can become a tremendous advantage.
People who are sensitive are often more able to figure out what others need in order to feel included in a group. They may be able to make very subtle adjustments in their socializing that create a positive atmosphere. People who are not sensitive will probably not be aware of either the problem or the adjustment.
Sensitive people can experience deeply felt joy and satisfaction at some of the “little” things in life. Has a sunset ever moved you to tears? Have you felt so overcome by music that you could hardly speak?
Instead of telling yourself over and over that it is unacceptable to be as sensitive as you are, don’t you think it’s time to learn how to value this desirable trait, and make it into something that enhances who you are?
One of the hardest things about being sensitive is that so many people have told you to stop being who you are, that you may not know how to be who you are very well. It only makes sense that being shut down all your life results in shutting down your feelings, not trusting your emotions, and falsely believing that you are worth less than the average person.
Come in. Let’s fix this together!