Ever notice how we tend to say “when things get back to normal”? What is normal anyway? When I take a look at my life, the elusive “normal” doesn’t happen often enough to technically qualify as “normal”! Instead, I find myself in the midst of challenges and frustration. And when I really take a moment to think about it, I prefer it this way. Life has a lot to teach me, and I’m not going to learn it sitting by the pool while someone else fills my drink!
We’re all in the same boat. The times in our lives that are filled with peace and prosperity, love and success, are not common moments. Bad things happen to all of us. If I want to comfort myself with a bowl of ice-cream, that might be morally okay but it shouldn’t be confused with self-compassion. Self-compassion isn’t about what you “deserve” or about entitlement. And self-compassion isn’t the same thing as self-pity, where you focus on your own problems and tend to forget that those around you experience problems too. Life is difficult for everyone and remembering that we all share the human experience will not only increase your compassion for others, but will also help you be more gentle with yourself.