Trauma happens to many of us, and perhaps to most of us. Some of us have experienced truly horrific events that are beyond what we consider “normal” life. Past trauma can leave its mark in the way we manage emotions, the way our brain looks or acts (physiological traces), and particularly in our learned behaviors (the way we perceive and react to various events). The good news is that we can change our lives enough to leave trauma in the past. We can teach our minds and bodies new and more adaptive responses for the happenings of the present moment.
My primary emphasis in this area is to stress the following: If you are interested in change, you must create change with your whole self (body and mind). You must create mind-body health, without waiting another moment. Your brain was shaped by your past, but you can reshape it in your present based on how you care for it. You have a choice. You can give in to the past and give up on change, staying miserable. Or you can do everything necessary to effect real change. There are things you can do that will indeed work, and refusing to do them in order to more fully affix blame on something/someone else is only going to keep you miserable. Sure, you don’t want to exercise. Sure, whatever happened was not your fault. But you are the one in the present moment who is living your life. So live your life, don’t let your past live it for you! Your past will live it miserably. But you have all the power you need to decide to be courageous and live differently.