Dialectical Behavior Therapy can be helpful to anyone who has difficulty with emotions.
This difficulty might be in what’s called regulating emotions. This means you might have trouble “being in control” of your emotions — not in the sense of overcontrolling or masking emotions, but in the sense of being able to handle emotions and not let them run your life. People who are able to regulate their emotions are able to experience emotions fully without letting their emotions get the best of them.
Sometimes people are so overcome by strong emotion that they find themselves doing anything to shut down the emotion. This can run the gamut from going shopping (“retail therapy”) to eating to substance use and even self-harm. If you have ever found yourself unable to tolerate experiencing an emotion because it is too overwhelming or you just can’t stand feeling a certain way, you will benefit from what DBT can teach you about emotion regulation.
Occasionally people are so miserable with their emotions that they engage in self-harm or entertain thoughts of death. Often this is simply an indication that they are overwhelmed with pain and just don’t know what to do to feel better. DBT is particularly suited to helping these individuals. In fact, DBT was made with this type of situation in mind.
That said, however, it’s my opinion that everyone can benefit from DBT skills. If you’d like to learn how to get what you want AND keep people liking you, then DBT is for you. If you’d like to learn how to stay focused and on track when difficult people make you angry, or when life circumstances create anxiety or distress, then DBT is for you. If you find yourself reaching for brownies when you are upset instead of tolerating your emotions well, DBT can help you too.
The most important component in DBT is commitment: Your commitment. If you are committed to making changes and doing what is most effective, DBT is an incredible value.